What is Sleep Divorce?

It might sound dramatic, but sleep divorce is a practical solution many couples turn to for better sleep. Sleep divorce means a couple sleeps in separate or individual rooms—to improve their sleep quality. 

A 2024 survey from the American Academy of Sleep Medicine reveals that 29% of Americans have opted to sleep in another bed in the same bedroom or in another space in the home to accommodate a bed partner, choosing to prioritize their rest as much as their relationship. So, if you’ve ever thought about gently nudging your partner to the guest room for a peaceful night’s sleep, you’re not alone!

Why Do Couples Choose Sleep Divorce?

There’s no one-size-fits-all reason for sleep divorce. Couples opt for separate beds for a variety of reasons:

• Snoring Symphony: If your partner’s snoring rivals a chainsaw, you’ve probably thought about escaping to the guest room.
• Different Sleep Schedules: Night owls and early birds can coexist peacefully—just maybe not in the same bed. 
• Restless Nights or Restless Legs: Tossing, turning, or dealing with restless legs can make sharing a bed seem like a wrestling match.
• Temperature Wars: If you love a cool room while your partner prefers to feel toasty, separate beds might be the perfect compromise.
• Lifestyle Changes: A new baby or recovery from a surgical procedure may prompt a temporary 'Sleep Divorce' to ensure better sleep.

The Benefits of Sleep Divorce

Improved Sleep Quality: One of the biggest perks of sleep divorce is better rest. Separate beds can eliminate disturbances, helping you achieve the quality sleep essential for your health.

Better Communication and Relationship Health: Good sleep is beneficial for your body and your relationship. Lack of sleep can make people irritable and prone to unnecessary tension. By getting the rest you need, you’re more likely to communicate calmly, improving the overall health of your relationship.

Intimacy Can Still Thrive: Sleep divorce doesn’t have to mean the end of intimacy. Before heading to separate beds, you can still maintain your nightly rituals, like talking or cuddling. This practice ensures connection while still getting the sleep you need.

What have we learned?

Sleep divorce isn’t something to fear—it could be the key to a happier, healthier relationship. By understanding each other’s needs and finding a sleep arrangement that works, you and your partner can enjoy the best of both worlds: restful nights and a strong connection. So, embrace the sleep divorce—your relationship might thank you!